Well, you’ve done it: you finished high school! Congratulations. I’m sure by now you’re tired of hearing the oh-so-many questions, including: “What college are you going to?” “What’s your major?” “Are you excited?”

But that’s the past. Now you’re all about college. You’re embarking on a new journey. This isn’t high school anymore, and, if you’re like me, you say thank goodness for that! The next few years are bound to hold more memories, laughs, tears, and nights cramming than any other years you have had or ever will.

I know I was scared when I heard others talking about college. I had a brother, two close friends, and a WELS church whose pastor used to be my seventh-grade vicar waiting for me in College Station, Texas, and I was still scared. Who would I be friends with? Where would I meet people? Would anyone want to be my friend?

The best piece of advice I can give you is this: just about everyone else in your position feels the exact same way! You’re scared? So are they! You want to be friends? You never know who is thinking the same thing about you. 

Let’s take a simple elevator ride with an unfamiliar student, the whole time tinged with awkward silence. But how different do you feel when the other person smiles, says hello, comments randomly about the day. This small act changes the way you see that person and creates a connection even for a few seconds. What a precious gift. People want to be friends with friendly people! Don’t be afraid to let your God-given smile shine. You never know whom you might meet. God has a reason for bringing each and every person into your path. We never know what that purpose is, but we do know that we can make the best of each opportunity.

I made it a point to talk to people at new student conferences, orientations, and class—people I’m still great friends with today.

I’m not what you would call a shy person by any means, but I get nervous meeting new people just like everyone else. Put yourself out there. Don’t invite yourself along, but don’t be afraid to mingle.

Cliques in college are not the same as high school cliques. Sure they get noticed but, trust me, typically not in a good way. Rekindle your high school friendships, because if they’re true friends they’ll encourage you to spread your wings at your new college.