Cheating boyfriend
I recently found out my boyfriend, who is also a Christian, has been dating me and another girl at the same time. I want to talk to him about it but I don't know how to do so in a Christian manner. Is there a correct way to confront those who are sinning against us? Or should we silently forgive them and move on?
A lot depends on what he—or the two of you together—thought your relationship was and is. You seem to be thinking it was a relationship that should not have involved either of you dating others. Perhaps he did not see the relationship that way. If you had talked about this, and this was your agreement, then your boyfriend's actions most likely indicate that he does not share the same level of commitment to you that you have toward him or the same level of enjoyment with you that you had with him. And it is then your decision whether or not to stay in any kind of relationship with him.
You ask about a Christian way of speaking with him. The words of Ephesians 4:15, "speaking the truth in love," are always a good choice. Speak with him directly, straightforwardly, honestly, and communicate your thoughts, feelings, and honest reaction to what he has done. Explain why you feel the way you do. But in all this communicating, do so lovingly. That is, you are not seeking to punish or shame or hurt him.
Remaining silent is not helpful or healthy. Deal with the issue. Clarify feelings—your own and his. Give thanks that this opportunity has surfaced so that you can learn more about him as he learns more about you. And especially be honest with yourself as you are being honest with him. Treat yourself as the child of God you are in Christ. You are special in God's eyes regardless of how others may feel about you.
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